Welcome to the Fab at Fifty Plus Story
From Dreams to Darkness
I came to America from the Caribbean at 14 with a crystal-clear dream: I was going to be a doctor. That dream felt like destiny, like the entire reason I existed.
But life had other plans.
The cultural shock was overwhelming. Everything I knew about how to be in the world - how to speak, how to connect, how to succeed - suddenly didn't work. I felt like I was failing at being human.
By 21, depression had swallowed my medical school dreams whole. I spent the next 25 years convinced I was fundamentally broken - too scattered, too emotional, too much and somehow also not enough.
I became really good at surviving. At doing what was expected. At making everyone else's dreams come true while mine gathered dust in the corners of my heart.
I wasn't broken. I was undiagnosed.
Getting my ADHD diagnosis at 50 didn't just explain my struggles - it completely reframed my story. All those years of feeling "different," all the executive function challenges, the hyperfocus followed by scattered attention - suddenly it all made sense.
The Spiritual Awakening That Changed Everything
Growing up Caribbean meant growing up in church. Faith was woven into everything - Sunday services, daily prayers, unquestioned beliefs. But as I got older, especially during my depression years, church felt... hollow. I'd cry every time I went, and I couldn't understand why.
Slowly, I realized I wasn't losing my faith. I was finding it.
The rigid rules weren't feeding my soul anymore. I needed something deeper, more personal, more connected to my actual experience. I started trusting my intuition, exploring meditation, understanding that my relationship with the divine was mine to define.
This spiritual evolution taught me something profound: The answers I was seeking were already within me.
The Mission That Found Me
Around my 50th birthday, everything crystallized. My depression, my ADHD diagnosis, my spiritual journey, my experience as an immigrant, my years of feeling like I didn't fit anywhere - it all suddenly made perfect sense.
I wasn't meant to be a doctor healing bodies. I was meant to be a guide helping souls.
Every woman who has ever felt:
Too old to start something new
Too broken because of mental health struggles
Too behind because life didn't follow the "normal" timeline
Too guilty for wanting more than survival
Too different because she questions traditional beliefs
She needs to know what I learned: Your struggles aren't disqualifying you from your purpose. They're preparing you for it.
What I'm NOT (And Why That Matters)
Let me be crystal clear about something: I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or medical professional.
Everything I share comes from my personal journey through depression, ADHD diagnosis, spiritual awakening, and dream reclamation. This content is designed to complement, not replace, professional mental health care.
I always encourage working with qualified professionals for mental health concerns. Your healing journey deserves all the support you can get.
What I am is someone who has walked through the fire and lived to tell about it. Someone who transformed her "broken" story into a bridge for other women crossing similar territory.
I'm your spiritual big sister, your peer mentor, your reminder that it's never too late to become who you were always meant to be.
Why I Share My Story
I'm not sharing my struggles because I think they're unique - I'm sharing them because I know they're universal.
Somewhere out there is a woman who thinks her depression disqualifies her from dreams. She needs to know it might actually be preparing her for them.
Somewhere out there is a woman who got diagnosed with ADHD later in life and feels grief about "what could have been." She needs to know that late diagnosis can be liberation, not limitation.
Somewhere out there is a woman who has outgrown her childhood faith and feels spiritually homeless. She needs to know that questioning beliefs can be the beginning of finding authentic spirituality.
Somewhere out there is a woman who thinks 50+ means winding down. She needs to know it can mean the most powerful awakening of her life.
If that woman is you, I want you to know: You are not alone. You are not behind. You are not broken.
You are exactly where you need to be, with exactly the experiences you need to become who you were always meant to be.
My Mission Today
Today, I help women 50+ understand that their struggles weren't roadblocks to their dreams - they were preparation for their purpose.
Through my newsletter, podcast, courses, and community, I offer:
Permission to want more than survival
Practical guidance for pursuing dreams when dealing with mental health challenges, family resistance, and the unique obstacles of starting over after 50
Spiritual support for women navigating faith transitions and trusting their inner knowing
Community with other women proving it's never too late to bloom
I believe with every fiber of my being that your struggles have prepared you for something beautiful. Your dreams matter. Your timing is perfect. Your story isn't over - it's just getting to the good part.
Let's Connect
Want to continue this conversation? Here's how we can stay connected:
📧 Newsletter: Get weekly permission slips and honest conversations about dreams, mental health, and authentic living
🎙️ Podcast: Deep dives into transformation, spiritual awakening, and practical dream pursuit
📱 Social Media: Daily encouragement and real talk about life after 50
💌 Email: I read every message sent to info@fabatfiftyplus.com
About Fab At Fifty Plus
Step into a world where fabulousness knows no age limits. Embrace the quirks, the laughter, and the wisdom that come with being over 50. Join our community filled with authenticity, practical insights, and limitless inspiration to rock life at any age!
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A world where women over 50 are celebrated as late-blooming powerhouses, where struggles are honored as preparation for purpose, and where dreams are pursued with the wisdom that only comes from lived experience.
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To guide women 50+ through transforming their struggles into stepping stones toward the dreams they've deferred, using authentic vulnerability, practical wisdom, and spiritual insight gained from walking the path ourselves.
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1. STRUGGLES AS SACRED PREPARATION
"Your pain has purpose, your breakdown becomes breakthrough"
We believe that mental health challenges, life trauma, and difficult experiences aren't evidence of brokenness - they're evidence of capacity to feel deeply, survive much, and develop wisdom that can only come through lived experience.
This means:
Depression can be spiritual preparation for helping others through darkness
ADHD and neurodivergence are differences, not defects
Late diagnoses are liberations, not limitations
Every struggle develops capacities for serving others
Healing is not about becoming who you were before - it's about becoming who you were always meant to be
2. DREAMS WITHOUT EXPIRATION DATES
"Your timeline is perfect for you"
We reject society's schedule for women's lives and believe that authentic dreams can be pursued at any age, with the wisdom and resources that come from lived experience being advantages, not disadvantages.
This means:
Starting over at 50+ is courage, not crisis
Life experience is qualification, not limitation
Late bloomers often bloom most brilliantly
Your desires are valid regardless of your age
The best chapters of your life can still be unwritten
3. INNER KNOWING OVER EXTERNAL AUTHORITY
"Trust the wisdom that lives within you"
We believe that each woman has access to divine guidance through her own intuition and inner knowing, and that spiritual growth often means outgrowing external structures that no longer serve authentic development.
This means:
Your relationship with the divine is yours to define
Questioning beliefs can deepen rather than diminish faith
Moving beyond traditional religion doesn't mean losing spirituality
Your intuition is a valid source of guidance
Spiritual evolution is natural and necessary for authentic living
4. PERMISSION FROM WITHIN
"You already have everything you need to begin"
We believe that women have been conditioned to seek permission for their own desires and that true empowerment comes from learning to give yourself permission to want more, start over, and prioritize your own growth and happiness.
This means:
You don't need anyone's approval to pursue your dreams
Family resistance to your growth is normal and not your responsibility to manage
Wanting more than survival is not selfish - it's healthy
Setting boundaries is self-respect, not selfishness
Your needs and desires matter as much as anyone else's
5. AUTHENTIC VULNERABILITY AS STRENGTH
"Your real story is your greatest gift"
We believe that sharing our struggles honestly creates connection, healing, and hope for others walking similar paths, and that vulnerability is not weakness but the foundation of authentic leadership and meaningful impact.
This means:
Imperfect authenticity beats perfect pretense every time
Your struggles qualify you to help others, not disqualify you
Sharing your real story gives others permission to be real too
Leadership is not about having it all figured out - it's about being honest about the journey
Wounds become wisdom when shared with love
6. COMMUNITY OVER COMPETITION
"We rise by lifting each other"
We believe that women's empowerment is not a zero-sum game and that sharing resources, celebrating others' successes, and creating supportive communities multiplies rather than diminishes individual success.
This means:
Other women's success doesn't diminish your own
Sharing opportunities and resources creates abundance for all
Celebrating late bloomers inspires more late blooming
Peer support is as valuable as professional guidance
We're all walking each other home
7. HOLISTIC INTEGRATION
"Mind, body, spirit, and dreams work together"
We believe that true transformation requires addressing the whole person - mental health, spiritual development, physical wellbeing, and dream pursuit are all interconnected aspects of authentic living.
This means:
Mental health support and dream pursuit work together, not against each other
Spiritual practices enhance rather than replace practical action
Physical wellbeing supports emotional and spiritual growth
Professional mental health care and peer support complement each other
Sustainable transformation addresses all aspects of being human
8. CULTURAL WISDOM AND INDIVIDUAL TRUTH
"Honor your roots while growing your branches"
We believe that cultural background and family traditions can be sources of wisdom and strength while also acknowledging that authentic growth sometimes means evolving beyond inherited beliefs and expectations.
This means:
Your cultural background is a source of strength, not limitation
Honoring ancestors doesn't mean copying their choices
Immigrant and cultural displacement experiences create unique wisdom
Traditional wisdom and modern authenticity can coexist
Your individual truth matters as much as collective traditions